10 Home Safety Tips Every Day Parents should teach their Kids

As a parent, you need to know how to keep your home safe for your kids. A home is like a playground for kids, and they learn a lot of things from home as they grow up. Kids learn a lot from touching and feeling things that are around them, and yours will do just that from the comfort of your home. If you hire an experienced locksmith Toronto, he will recommend to you the best door locks and keyless entry locks you can use in your home.  All you need to do is make your home safe for your kids. Most locksmiths offer additional services apart from just key cutting. Here are some pointers on what you can do to ensure a safe home for your kids to play around.

  1. Know your house name, address, and number

It is vital that you teach your kids the basic contact details of both you and your partner, your names and contact numbers. This way, your kids can share your numbers with someone to contact you in case of an emergency.

  1. Never accept food from strangers

Teach your kids to stay away from people they don’t know, and never take food from them. Your kids need to know the dangers that may arise from eating food from strangers. You can always advise them to politely refuse the foodstuff given to them by a stranger who is offering them food without your consent.

  1. Don’t climb the fence

Teach your kids to never go near any fence to climb over it. Your kids may be playing with their toys, and one goes over the fence. In such situations, teach your kids to get assistance from an adult. Such scenarios can be sorted out easily if you have an automatic door opener.

  1. Don’t walk off the yard by yourself

Your kids need to know that it is not safe to walk off your yard without an adult around. They should know that an adult need always to accompany them whenever they want to go out to do anything. To avoid your kids wandering outside the house you should have deadbolt locks and key pack locks for enhanced in house security.

  1. Experimenting and playing with fire is prohibited

Your kids must know that fire is absolutely off limits. Your kids have to learn that they can only be near fire with your consent, and nothing else. You also need to ensure that all the fire outlets are properly tightened and out of the reach of your kids.

  1. Don’t go anywhere with a stranger

No matter what the reason may be, your kids need to know that it is prohibited to talk to, and even go anywhere with strangers. Teach them to always shout for help whenever a stranger approach them to take them anywhere no matter what the reason may be.

  1. Don’t let anyone touch your kid’s body

This is another very important safety rule that your kids need to know from you as soon as they can understand what it means. Teach them about good touch and bad touch, and that no one is allowed to touch them except for you and your partner if need be. You can teach your kids to shout for help if a stranger touches them.

  1. Stay where you are if you get lost

It is vital that you advise your kid always to stay where they are if in any case, they get lost. Teach them to always hold your hand in public places. Some of the most common places where kids get lost are the malls and supermarkets. Teach them to only seek assistance from the counter of the store if they get lost.

  1. Never share addresses and contact details unless necessary

Your kids need to know the dangers of sharing your contact details and addresses. And they should only do that in cases of emergencies as in point 1 above.

  1. Don’t do whatever you’re uncomfortable with

If what you or someone else ask your kid to do but they are not comfortable with it, then you need to teach them not to do it. It could be anything like taking off their clothes in front of others to diving in your home pool. Teach them to refuse any of the stuff they don’t feel like doing.

Kids For Sale

Here is some mandatory reading for anyone considering having kids! I know he thinks this is funny, but the fact that most of it is true kinda makes it scary: Kids For Sale

Thanks to Childfreedom for sharing the link with me.

Update: And now he’s upset because us evil childfree people are talking about him and don’t we know that parenting is hard?! (But in his next breath he is sure to smugly inform us that it’s harder than anything we’ll ever do. Yea, that old tune again.) He’s in such a snit, you’d think we’d said his kids were ugly!

I bet his next trick will be claiming he’s not at all insecure.

Extra Update: Do not go over there and pick a fight. Just leave it alone. They have a lot more free time on their hands than we do for internet dramaz.

Looking for NaNoWriMo writing buddies?

Slightly off topic, but anyone NaNoWriMo-ing this year?

Some of you may not have heard of NaNoWriMo. It’s a project to get amateur writers who claim “someday I’m going to write a novel” to start writing one. You start a fresh novel idea November 1st and the goal is to reach 50,000 words by the end of the month — about 1700 words a day. To give you an idea of how many words 1700 is, it’s not quite three pages in MS Word (single spaced). NaNoWriMo is on the honor system, so you can cheat if you want, but what’s the point? All you get is a certificate. The real reward is the sense of accomplishment you get from actually finishing.

A friend and I got to talking about how difficult it was to find NaNoWriMo buddies who weren’t teenagers or stay-at-home moms. Teens can be, well, teens, and SAHMommy writing buddies are likely to spend a lot of time making kid-related excuses and getting annoyed if you get too far ahead and making snippy comments like, “Well, it’s EASY if you don’t have a FAMILY. ” *eyeroll* That’s why I prefer to steer clear of them, and perhaps you do, too.

So I agreed to set up a thread here where people who might be looking for writing buddies can match up. Post a link to your NaNoWriMo profile, a little about the genre you write, perhaps your age group, state or country you live in, perhaps other hobbies/interests, etc. – whatever you think might help you find a writing buddy that you might have something in common with.

And for all you NaNoWriMo-ers out there, good luck!

Dr Phil’s Childfree Segment

Someone alerted me that Dr. Phil was doing a show on the childfree today and that I needed to watch, so I taped it. I wasn’t sure I wanted to watch it, as Dr. Phil is almost as bad as Oprah for pandering to stay-at-home-mommydom, but I decided to risk it and made sure to have the barf bag handy.

It wasn’t a great segment but it wasn’t terrible. It was a short, maybe 6-minute segment squished in the midst of telling other (un-related) stories and a series of in-show commercials for ABC primetime shows. (groan)

The couple described themselves as “childless” rather than childfree, leading me to believe there will be a follow-up episode three years from now with them holding their new baby after they’ve seen “the light.” Time will tell. But for this show, they told Dr Phil about why they don’t want kids and how his mother is putting pressure on them.

The segment started out making them look incredibly dumb. The first thing they said about why they don’t want children (for now) was,

If we had children it would limit our ability to watch certain movies.

This immediately made me think of the Jeff Foxworthy routine where he says, And you know the thing is, southerners are as smart as anybody else in this country, our only problem is we just can’t keep the most ignorant amongst us off the television. That’s the truth. I mean, every time we have a disaster, they never film a doctor or a lawyer, they always get that woman in the muumuu and the sponge rollers.

Did Dr Phil and his staff specifically look for a couple who would lead off with remarks like that to diminish the childfree choice? I know, I’m not supposed to attack other childfree people, but let’s be fair. If he had on some ditz talking about why she just has to have kids, and the first reason for having kids out of her mouth was, “I want kids so I can go play at Chuck E Cheese!” we’d all be going, “Oh what a dumb bitch! You’re going to create a human being for THAT reason? As if you can’t go to Chuck E Cheese anyway!!”

And conversely, if someone’s first excuse for not having kids is that they want to watch R rated movies, they are going to look like dumbasses. Everyone, parents and non-parent alike are going to think, “Really? REALLY?” I know that in our childfree communities we joke that once you have kids, you no longer get to have any fun or do anything anymore, but you people don’t really believe that, do you? People with kids watch R rated movies all the time – probably more than we do. There are still two couples left in the United States who get a sitter and go out to see their R rated movies at the theater, sans kids. A few dozen rent movies and watch them after the kids are in bed, and the rest all just watch the R rated movies with their kids! So… judges? Yes, we’re all in agreement. That was the lamest ass reason not to have kids I’ve ever seen. Did they have to say that?!

I’m fairly certain that this was spiteful editing by someone on Dr Phil’s staff, wanting to make this couple look dumb and idiotic, but honestly, if I was going on Dr Phil, I wouldn’t list all the little piddly reasons I don’t want kids. I’d only tell them the important ones. This way they wouldn’t have the opportunity to lead off with a dumb reason like that and make me look like a fool. Just last week I was talking to a friend who was complaining about her kids and I laughed and said to her, “This is why I don’t have kids! I don’t have to share any of the good toys with them!!” and while there is some truth to that, I wouldn’t say THAT while being interviewed for a national television program. Even if it’s a valid reason to not want kids, there are bigger and better issues to be addressed. Helpful hint: On national television, you’re kinda representing the childfree community at large. Try hard not to look stupid. Just saying.

Dr. Phil redeemed himself a little by being supportive of their choice (although he did take time out to talk about how he himself used to not want kids but he “saw the light” and the wax nostalgic about how wonderful parenting is and how he’s looking forward to his first grandchild being born. *gag*).

Two quotes I liked hearing from Dr Phil, that I’m sure his primary viewership is foaming at the mouth over:

1) There is a fair amount of research out there that suggests there is a significant percentage of mothers who regret it.
2) I totally believe… if you aren’t really just hot to do it, you shouldn’t do it.

Of course, then he ruined it by advising them to re-evaluate their choice every year. *eyeroll* To be fair, if you do consider yourself “childless” it couldn’t hurt to re-evaluate the choice from time to time. Still, if someone had told Dr Phil that they couldn’t wait to get married and have kids, he would never tell them to re-evaluate their choice every year. So it seemed a little obnoxious here, but whatever.

The segment was mostly a drive-by and had its good points and its bad points, but if you missed it, it was no big loss.

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P.S. If you’re wondering about the Bratfree website, it’s down because the domain expired yesterday. I have no idea if she just forgot to renew it or if she plans to let it go. You’ll have to check back in a couple of weeks to see if it’s back up or not.

Share your sterilization experience stories!

Now that I posted the information on the childfree-friendly doctors, I have been getting a lot of requests for more information about people’s experiences with various procedures (Essure, Vasectomy, etc) and the costs. I know that everyone’s experience and cost will be different, so I decided to start this thread for you all to discuss your experiences.

If you could, briefly, give people an overview of your experiences from IUDs to vasectomies to abortions. Start about by explaining what you had done, how it was done, how much pain or discomfort you were in, what your recovery time was and how soon you felt back to normal. Did you have an complications? If your insurance covered all or part of it, what insurance do you have? If you found some charity or program to help cover the cost, please include that information. If you paid the whole thing outright, how much did it set you back? When talking amongst your friends who have had similar procedures done, what is the average cost of these procedures?

Thanks for helping share this information with the childfree community!

The Baby Trap by Ellen Peck

I recently obtained a copy of the book The Baby Trapwritten by Ellen Peck, a childfree author. The book was published in 1971 and is now out of print, so if you see a copy, snatch it up. It’s pretty good, despite being a bit dated (the whole chapter on birth control and abortion is particularly outdated!).

The first seven chapters were especially good. She starts off the book explaining she is not going to be objective or tell both sides of the story on purpose to balance out all the pro-child sentiments society blasts at us.

She discusses how having kids is big business to capitalist society. Having babies keeps you spending money on them and they’ll grow up to be spenders, too. Meanwhile, workerbees can’t afford to risk their jobs because they have a family to support. She discusses how advertisers use children and family to sell everything, from baby cribs to socks. (There was a particular Hanes commercial a few years ago that annoyed the hell out of me. Mom and teen daughter bonded because… they wore the same socks?! I don’t think the socks are that miraculous!)

In another chapter, Ms Peck discusses how the mainstream media sells motherhood, partially by glorifying celebrity mothers and perpetuating the “baby saves marriage” myth. Next, she discusses how our culture has become more obsessed with reproducing itself than with improving itself — something I’m sure we all recognize.

…babies are emphasized and adults are de-emphasized… a woman is regarded as a means to an end (propagating the species)… she is not seen as beautiful, vibrant, valuable in and of herself.

There is so much true about that, even today. How many mommies do you know who claim that their children are their “crowning achievement” – they de-value any personal accomplishments they might have had educationally or professionally or even hobbies they were really good at. No, the children are her only real glory – because she sees herself as just a baby producer. It makes me ill. As far as she’s concerned, the first twenty (or so) years of her life, before having babies, was almost like wasted time where she were nothing but an empty shell, waiting to fulfill her destiny as mother. Really, I think I’m going to throw up here!

Ms Peck goes on to argue that there is no “maternal instinct” but rather a sexual instinct, and babies just happen to be a consequence of that. The maternal instinct is wholly manufactured to keep women busy and at home and spending money on lots and lots of things for baby. What happens if more and more women decide not to have kids? Why, we might get educated and realize there is more to life. We might take valuable jobs away from men. We might not be stuck staying with shitty husbands, and then all those crap guys might not get laid anymore. Oh no, can’t have that! Better to keep women down and their expectations low – it’s better for men, especially the assholes.

I could go on all day, but these are the highlights. While there isn’t anything new in this book – it is almost 40 years old, after all – but it’s an interesting read and puts a lot of ideas we already have into print, validating them. I’m proud that our fore mothers and fathers were working for the childfree movement four decades ago to pave the way for our choices.

I really enjoyed the book, and you likely would, too, if you can find a copy!