Tips on How to Choose the Right Family Lawyer in Canada

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Being in a family sometimes requires a lawyer to handle all the legal issues that might arise. Family lawyers can lend a helping hand in estates, wills, property division, divorce and marriage agreements. It is imperative you hire a family lawyer if you have children, a spouse or old parents who may require extra care. However, many people in Canada often end up in family problems without a lawyer because they think it is a complex process to get one, which is not true. Here are tips on how to choose a lawyer in Canada.

Have a list of needs

Make a list of legal requirements that you may need now and in the future. If you are a young couple, your needs may be different from older ones with grown children and vast wealth. You may want to choose someone who has an experience in all fields of family law. If you have an extensive real estate or other intricate financial assets, you may consider a lawyer who is experienced in family law and tax planning. When you know what you need, it becomes easier to get the right lawyer.

Ask for recommendations

Ask your friends, relatives and family members if they have someone to recommend. Make sure the person you ask has a previous experience with a family lawyer in your state. Ask them about their relationship with the lawyer and whether they liked him or not. Go for at least five recommendations. However, do not settle for recommended lawyers without doing extra research on them.

Do extra research

Go online and see what people say about the prospective lawyers in review platforms. Scan their websites and determine the services they offer and at what price. Check whether they have a list of people you can contact for more information. You can also look into the Law Society of Upper Canada’s website. The organization has a reliable referral service that helps thousands of people to get lawyers every year. They provide free consultations done over the phone for up to 30 minutes.

Schedule interviews

From the research, you should come up with a list of at least three attorneys who you think are most suited for the job. Schedule an interview with each one of them. You can either meet physically or talk over the phone. During the interview, ask them about their level of experience in family law. Get to know more about their previous works and their outcome. This is also the time to know their rates.

Make a decision

From the interviews, you can now settle on one lawyer based on how each one of them answered your questions and handled you. Go with the one you feel most comfortable with. The resources at Matrimonial Home are helpful and can provide you with more information.

How to Get Your Child Psyched About Summer Camp

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You may get warm and fuzzy feelings when you think about sending your child or teen to summer camp, but that may not be the feeling that the child gets at all. In fact, your child may be afraid or even angry at you. He may perceive that you are sending him away to some dreadful place. The following are some tips on how you can get your child in the mood and in the groove to go through camp effectively:

Explain That You Love Him

For some reason, children and teens associate leaving the home with abandonment. Your child may get the impression that you just want to get rid of him, and you are using summer camp as a way to dump him off. Take the time to explain to your child that you love him dearly, but that the summer camp can provide services and activities for him that you cannot provide for him. Let him know that you will miss him when he is gone, but that the two of you need this time apart so you can both grow. Explain that the absence will make him miss and appreciate the home base more. He will come around. Make sure you offer one of those super mom hugs before you send him off. Maybe he will remember that during the time you are separated.

Tell Him About the Activities

One reason that kids sometimes think summer camp is going to be lame is that they don’t know how awesome the activities are going to be. You can solve that problem by showing them the itinerary. Show your child or your teen that they will be involved in water sports, camping trips, wilderness adventures, arts and crafts, musical instruments and the like. Furthermore, let your child know that he or she will have the opportunity to meet some new friends at camp. Your child will absolutely love that idea.

Offer a Bribe

If all else fails, you can try a kiddie bribe. Tell your child that his favorite toy will be waiting for him or the two of you will do your favorite activity together just as soon as he gets back from summer camp. That may work for him. The goal is to give him something to look forward to when he comes back if your attempts to get him to look forward to going don’t work.

Try those three suggestions and see if you can get to a better place with him. Summer camp is an exhilarating place to be for a lot of people. Your child will have a wonderful time there, and he will probably not give you any trouble the following year. If you need to consult with a professional, Camp White Pine may be able to provide you with additional information.

3 Effective Ways to Market Your Baby-Related Business

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If you own your own business in the baby-related industry, you are probably always looking for ways to promote your company and bring in even more business. Luckily, there are many ways of doing so. From getting on social media to attending a baby show or baby expo at a local convention centre, you have a ton of options for raising awareness about your business and bringing in even more interested people.

1. Social Media

First of all, you should consider implementing one of the best, easiest and most affordable ways of marketing a business in today’s world: using social media marketing. Marketing a business on social media can be effective in just about any industry, and it can be particularly beneficial for baby-related businesses. This is because the target demographic for your average baby-related business — young moms of babies and toddlers — are often heavy users of sites like Facebook and Pinterest. Using social media is an affordable option for marketing your business and raising awareness; in fact, you can even get started for free by building and running your own social media profiles.

2. Baby Shows or Baby Conventions

If you have never thought about attending a baby show to market your business, it is definitely something that you should think about. These shows are held all over the country, so chances are good that you will have the opportunity to visit one in your local area. By setting up a booth, you can allow interested individuals to learn more about your business. It’s also a really good way to learn more about the industry and to get to know other people who also have baby-related business and who might be able to help you out.

3. Word of Mouth

So many people don’t even think about the importance of word-of-mouth advertising in today’s world, but the truth is that this kind of advertising can be highly beneficial for any business. By getting young moms to talk about your products — either in-person or on social media — you can greatly increase the number of potential customers who find out about what your baby-related business has to offer. Focusing on things like loyalty or referral programs is a great way to kick start this type of advertising.

As you can see, if you run a baby-related business, there are so many ways that you can market yourself to help bring in profits. Plus, you might find that you get to meet a whole lot of other people are involved in the industry or who have babies of their own along the way, which can make running your business that much more enjoyable. Visit The BabyTime Show if you are interested in learning more information.

Goat Milk- The Perfect Solution for Anyone with Milk Allergies and Lactose Intolerance

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There has been an increased intake of goat milk globally than ever before. The milk is healthier and more nutritious when consumed raw and organic than in the goat dairy products such as butter, ice cream, dried milk products, cheese, yogurt, or evaporated milk. Goat milk has 13% more calcium than the cow’s milk. Goats produce 2% of milk in the whole world, which is very hard to acquire the milk in most parts of Canada.

Benefits of Taking Goats Milk

  1. Rich in less allergic proteins- cow milk is renowned for its high protein content (alpha S1-casein), which is allergic to many people. Goat milk, on the other hand, has very few traces of this protein making it ideal for people with milk allergies.
  2. Low cholesterol levels- the cholesterol concentrations in the goat milk are slightly lower than the cows. Anyone watching her fat intake should consider going for the skimmed and the semi-skimmed goat milk.
  3. Lactose intolerance– a lactose intolerant person has a problem with the digestion of milk sugar. Goat milk has 10% less lactose than cow’s milk meaning that it is easier to digest. Some signs of intolerance to lactose may include nausea, bloating, excess intestinal gas, diarrhea, and abdominal cramps.
  4. High calcium levels- cow milk is renowned for its high calcium levels. However, the calcium levels in the goat milk are 13 times greater than the cows. Calcium in the milk helps in building strong teeth and bones as well as prevention of osteoporosis.
  5. Rich in vitamins and minerals- goat milk has very high levels of the vitamins B5 and B. The two vitamins are responsible for the conversion of food to energy and development of a healthy nervous system consecutively. Other minerals found in the goat milk include phosphorous, iodine, potassium, and sodium.
  6. Less concentration of toxins in the goat’s milk- veterinarians do not inject goats with the bovine somatotropin, a growth hormone injected into cows. This means that the goat milk does not have even a small trace of other toxic substances.
  7. A boost of the immune system- the selenium content found in the goat milk plays a vital role in maintaining the immune system at the perfect levels. Therefore, drinking goat milk reduces the susceptibility to diseases such as flu, heart diseases, and high blood pressure among others.

Goat Milk Formula

As much as the milk is easily digestible and less allergic, Goat Milk Formula is not ideal for babies under the age of six months. After six months, the parents can introduce the formula in addition to other supplements such as folic acid and B6, which may lack in the goat milk. Adding small amounts of organic yeast and grated liver would help in solving the nutritional dilemma of using the Goat Milk Formula. To gain more information, Kabrita may be able to provide additional insights with their online resources.

3 Things to Think About Before You Go Back to Work After Having a Baby

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Whether you are expecting your first child or you are at home with your new bundle of job and are planning to head back to work soon, you may want to take a closer look at the impact heading to work will have your life. There are many benefits associated with having a two-income household as well as with continuing on with the development of your career. There is also a child care advantage associated with having your kids immersed in a stimulating and active environment every day. However, there are also some downsides associated with heading back to work that may make the decision harder for you to make. As you weigh your choices, consider these valid points.

The True Cost of Daycare
The introduction of child care expenses to your monthly budget can be shocking and burdensome. In some cases, the annual cost of tuition for infant child care is similar to that of sending an older child off to college. This is particularly true when you factor in all related costs. After all, the monthly tuition is not the only child care fee to consider. Think about costs like field trips, annual supplies fees, application fees, school uniforms and more. Some facilities are far more affordable than others, so it can pay off to shop around.

The Daycare Tax Credit
You may have heard that there is a child care tax credit available to offset some of the costs working parents face when taking their kids to daycare. Unfortunately, this tax credit is not as substantial as most parents would like it to be. Depending on your income bracket and filing status, you may only save a few hundred dollars per year on your tax burden as a result of this credit. This may be the equivalent of not paying for a week or two of infant care at your daycare facility.

Your Work Schedule
The costs and tax credit for child care should carefully be considered against your total job compensation to determine if it is financially worthwhile for you to head back to work. When doing so, also consider the functional aspect of juggling a busy schedule. If you have a very demanding job, you may have to go into work very early and return home after dark each day. You also need to find time to do the grocery shopping, care for the house and take care of other responsibilities. You may consider alternative care solutions, such as having a nanny in the house to help with some of these responsibilities while you work.

The cost of child care typically declines significantly for older children, and your center may even have much lower rates after the child turns one year old. If you find that going back to work is not cost-effective now, consider returning to work at a time when rates are more affordable for you. More resources are available at Wee Watch Licensed Home Child Care if you would like to learn more.

Mommies want every day to be about them

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I just saw something so stupid I had to stop what I was doing and report it. Please forgive me for watching Lifetime channel, but they play repeats of Frasier in the morning and I’m still amused by that show.

This is what I heard this morning:

This Saturday it’s Lifetime’s “Going into Labor” Day event. Celebrate the holiday and all the mother’s out there!

Apparently some bimbo running Lifetime’s ad department actually believes that Labor Day is the same thing as Mother’s Day because it has the word “labor” in it, and this dipshit thinks “labor” can only mean giving birth. Breeder women won’t be happy until everything is about them, will they? It wouldn’t be so bad if they actually accomplished anything, but they don’t. They just overpopulate the planet, drug their kids up on Ritalin and refuse to make their kids behave because it might “stifle their creativity.” *disgusted sigh*

No, Lifetime Channel, Labor Day has nothing to do with squirting out kids. Traditionally it was meant to be a day to celebrate the people who actually had jobs, although now it’s only really used to remind parents when to send their kids back to school.

Kids For Sale

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Here is some mandatory reading for anyone considering having kids! I know he thinks this is funny, but the fact that most of it is true kinda makes it scary: Kids For Sale

Thanks to Childfreedom for sharing the link with me.

Update: And now he’s upset because us evil childfree people are talking about him and don’t we know that parenting is hard?! (But in his next breath he is sure to smugly inform us that it’s harder than anything we’ll ever do. Yea, that old tune again.) He’s in such a snit, you’d think we’d said his kids were ugly!

I bet his next trick will be claiming he’s not at all insecure.

Extra Update: Do not go over there and pick a fight. Just leave it alone. They have a lot more free time on their hands than we do for internet dramaz.

Mommies are insecure, especially while claiming they aren’t

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I had a run in with a couple of insecure mommies this week. These gals know a childfree friend of mine, but the term “frenemies” seems to apply here. Normally I wouldn’t dredge out all this drama, but it highlights something I’ve been saying for a while now about angry moms who lash out at the childfree.

My friend (we’ll call her Jane) was having a few issues with some people from high school who had found her on Facebook. I don’t know the specifics but apparently feathers were ruffled all around. (This is why you don’t add people from high school that you haven’t seen or heard from in years to your Facebook accounts! If you haven’t seen or heard from them in umpteen years, there is a good reason — they are not worth knowing!! Let this be a lesson to you all!)

Some of these people got upset with Jane over her childfree views and started staking out the childfree sites she’d post on (like this one) for stuff to use against her and throw back in her face. (And remember that, too, next time some mommy tells you how hard and time consuming motherhood is — how hard could it be if they have time to stalk childfree sites in attempts to harass their “friends”?!)

Jane recently wrote a blog post complaining about some of these problems. What I got out of Jane’s post was that these gals had been sending her emails pretending like they still wanted to be friends and still liked her, but were being condescending to her about her life choices and saying a lot of hurtful things to her. To be fair, I might have misunderstood what Jane was writing, but this was my understanding of her post.

In the comments I did what everyone does in their friends’ journals: I posted a sympathetic comment. Of course I didn’t know the whole story, that’s what friends (unlike frenemies) DO — they lend support to their friends based on their friends version of the story! That’s how friendshipworks.

I meant what I said, which was (paraphrased):

People who play those types of games with the implied (or outright) put-downs in them are insecure. They want you to know they feel sorry for you because they’ve become convinced *you* feel sorry for *them* and they can’t stand it.

Obviously I was talking in generalizations because I don’t know the whole story or the people in question, but *in general* my comment stands.

Both these frenemies of Jane’s started foaming at the mouth over ZOMG YOU CALLED US INSECURE and ZOMG YOU DON’T KNOW ME PHEONA!1!! (Angry mommies *always* misspell my name, even when it’s right in front of them, as if proving THEY can’t spell hurts me somehow. *snicker*) After peppering me with put-downs (thus proving Jane’s side of the story was true) they rattled off their measurements, how much time they spend at the gym and their (almost) advanced college degrees to me to PROVE they have nothing to be insecure about. They insisted that they are wonderful, smart, cute and fit so they can’t possibly be insecure!!!1!!1!

*blink*

Um…. What further proof did I need that they were insecure? They made my case for me.

I never suggested they were awful, stupid, ugly and fat. Unless they think the word “insecure” means “awful, stupid, ugly and fat” in which case, they are, at the very least, stupid. You can be insecure about a lot of things, and it’s not necessarily about your looks or your advanced college degrees (or lack thereof). And for the record, even some of the richest, smartest, prettiest, most successful people in the world are insecure about something. Why do you think there are so many shrinks and plastic surgeons in Hollywood?

These women informed me that of course I’d be infuriated if, as a pet owner, I read that someone else said that all pet owners were “brainless dimwits,” just as they are infuriated that childfree people insist all mothers are “breeders”. These rocket scientists informed me that when we use the word “breeder” we’re really calling them animals.

Interesting theory.

As far as my fury over insults about being a pet owner: I’m a cat owner, and I’ve known people my whole life who have told me, “Did you get rid of your cats yet? Cats are stupid and filthy and I hate them and if you were smart you’d get rid of them.” I have a sister and my husband has a brother who love to insult us about our cats, laugh and tell us about stories they read in the news about cats being harmed, and remind us they’ll never visit us as long as we have cats. Guess what? I’m not furious. In fact, as long as my cats act as relative-repellent, I’m keeping them!!

I’ll bet at least 35% of my regular readers think I’m stupid for having cats, and guess what? I don’t care! You are more than welcome to start a website that says, “Pheona’s stupid because she has cats!” and I would probably laugh my ass off over it! I most certainly would not have to run over to that website and insist I’m NOT stupid and tell you how perfectly wonderful, beautiful, highly educated and rich I am to disprove your theory that I’m stupid. I’m not insecure, I have nothing to prove, and your opinion of me does not change who I am.

I don’t care if you think I’m a 4′ 6″, 700-pound, transvestite Satanist who has so much body hair people mistake me for a Sasquatch or that my face is so ugly it gives small children nightmares and that I’ve got 900 years of bad luck because every mirror I look into breaks. I don’t care if you think I’m a 7th grade drop-out who is incredibly stupid and that I’ve never worked a day in my life because I’m a lazy bum who just milks the welfare system. I don’t care if you think I’m homeless living in a cardboard box behind the food shelter, that I’m a drunken drug addict or that I’m mentally ill and shouldn’t be allowed to vote. I don’t care if you think I’m a convict writing this from behind bars at the maximum security prison. I don’t care if you think I’m a bitter, barren shrew who wanted to adopt but was rejected and now I only write this website because I’m just jealous other people can get pregnant or adopt.

I KNOW what I am. I know the great things about me and I know the shitty things about me. I think I’m more self-aware than most people, and perhaps that’s why I’m notinsecure. NOTHING you can say or think about me makes me any more or less than what I already am.

So if I’m stupid, you saying I’m stupid doesn’t make me MORE stupid. But if I’m not stupid, you saying I’m stupid doesn’t make me any less smart! Get it? I have no need to argue with you about whether or not I’m stupid because… I’m not insecure about your opinion of me.

My saying you’re a breeder or insecure doesn’t make you any more or less of a breeder or an insecure twit than you already are.

Since the two of you (I know you’re reading this, even though you claim you “so over” me (“When were you under me?”)) are supposedly raising kids (I know you have them, I just don’t know if you actually have time for them, what with all this internet drama you create, stroking your own egos, all the time you claim to spend at the gym, in college classes and supposedly working full-time, too), you’d better fucking learn that bolded part above so you can, hopefully, someday teach it to your kids so that when they grow up, they won’t have to play these stupid, childish games.

For the record, going around telling everyone that this and every other site says that ALL women with children are hopeless, moronic breeders doesn’t make it true by a long shot. You can keep saying it, but people smarter than you will actually come here (and other sites) to verify your claims and see you are lying. Oh, and insecure.

Mommies Buy Useless Crap

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This is probably the dumbest thing I’ve heard of in a while and yet mommies are ga-ga over it. It’s The Shandle. No wonder people with kids are broke – they’ll buy anythingthat other mommies tell them is the “in” thing to buy, no matter how useless. (Admittedly this is a cheap piece of shit at $7 each, but I’d bet they’d still buy it if it was $100 a pop, as long as they thought it would make them look like “good” mommies.)

What is the Shandle, you ask? It’s some useless piece of plastic you stick to the toilet seat to help kids lift and lower the toilet seat without touching the “icky” toilet. As a bonus, it reminds them to wash their hands and gives them a cartoon to look at while urinating. That’s all it does.

So let me get this straight: these gals think their kids will die from germs if they touch the toilet? These people are unable to teach their kids to wash their hands so they need a piece of plastic to do it for them? (Well, maybe the piece of plastic can babysit the kids while mommy goes bar hopping, too!) And if the whole point is to teach the kids to wash their hands after using the toilet, does it really matter if they touch the “icky” toilet seat or not since they’ll be washing their hands right afterward? Couldn’t a home-made sign on the door or above the toilet remind the kids just as easily (and more cheaply)?

I really do not understand these germaphobes. I swear, a germ or two will not kill you! I’m not saying everyone should be licking toilet seats or anything like that, but humans have survived thus far without needing cutesy handles to survive to the next generation! I guarantee you there are kids out there who have touched a toilet seat, then put their hands in their mouths and lived to tell about it! I swear!

The feel-good crap like this is so ridiculous.

Think about this for a minute: Kids (and even some adults) miss and piss on the toilet seats. What’s to say they won’t miss and the piss gets on the Shandle, too?

“But, but, but… the Shandle is made of some antimircobial stuff! It repels germs!” is the mommy rallying cry. Well, here’s an idea. if this antimicrobial stuff is so awesome and lifesaving, why not just get a toilet seat made out of it? That might actually make some sense. But mommies won’t recommend antimicrobial toilet seats to each other because those toilet seats don’t come with cartoon characters printed on them!! DUH!

As for product reviews, one mommy says, “The Shandle is a neat little product! It’s so simple that it makes you wish you had thought of it yourself!” Seriously? It’s a piece of junk! The only reason someone might wish they’d thought of it was for the money they’d make off of dumb women who will buy anything if it’s marketed for kids!

My favorite design is this one:

If you have an overweight daughter or wife, this is the perfect gift! You can make sure she washes her hands and remind her of her weight issues every time she goes to the bathroom. BRILLIANT!!

Even more amusing is that they make some “decorative” ones for adults without the cutesy, “don’t forget to wash your hands after you pee!” sayings on them for all the adult germaphobes who think they need to avoid touching toilet seats, too.

Hey, but more power to the mommy who invented this to make money off the backs of all her peers. I’m sure she’s laughing all the way to the bank over all the suckers out there. Bravo! Job well done!

Woot! Hate Mail!

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That Daddy Blogger that I linked to last week and his people are still not over it (*eyeroll*) so now I got this trolling email. Which is fine but it’s such obvious trolls it takes all the fun out of it. I just wish I could get some GOOD hate mail. It’s been slow around here lately and it makes me sad.

The email itself is clearly an obvious troll, but even before I got to that, I knew it was a troll. This rocket scientist set up his email headers to say his name is “Pete Jergen” but when writing emails, he forgets all about this, so instead he signs his email as “Chris M.” Okay Pete AKA Chris. And I LOVE the M at the end – you know, he has to distinguish himself from all the other Chris’s writing to me in that email, right? I mean, if you don’t want to use your last name, don’t. But what does the “M.” prove? It’s not like this is Facebook where you are required to put in a last name or at least a last initial!

I debated on if I should post it here. On one hand, maybe it’ll discourage hate mail. On the other hand, the stuff in this email so basic, I could answer it in my sleep. I’m kind of sick of answering these whiny points, so maybe it will discourage people from sending me these whiny points again.

My name is Chris and I hope you are well. I am writting to you today to just get a little more input on this subject which I am sorry to say was unaware even existed. I was visiting my family this weekend and in speaking with my sister, introduced me to a website which made a joking article about having Children For Sale. It was just a harmless shot made by a father or ‘Duhdee” about his children working his nerves and went on to joke about it. Afterwards a whole community of angry Childless idiots began to spew a rancid assault on the father, duhdee or breeder.

All I wrote was a “harmless shot” about how Daddy Blogger was highlighting all the reasons not to have kids. Do you actually think that’s “spewing a rancid assault”? You need to get out more.

Side Note: I don’t even use the word “Duhdee” and it’s not on my Lingo List, so obviously this is someone who has been around this whole debate a lot longer than 24 hours to be so familiar with all the childfree lingo and sayings. Who even uses “Duhdee” anymore? Also, intentionally using the term “childless” is another clue — he must have known we don’t like that term and used it to stir the pot. *yawn*

Again, I never even knew such a community even existed. I guess the frightening thing about it is the actual hatred in their tones and sincere lack of basic human compassion towards another person.

Wait a minute… Didn’t you just call us “childless idiots”? And doesn’t that show “sincere lack of basic human compassion towards another person”? Or are you saying it’s okay to do that if you don’t like what the person is saying and in that case, wouldn’t it be appropriate for us to do the same?

More importantly, if whatever you’re griping about it something someone else said to your friend the Daddy Blogger, you’ll have to get with them to discuss the hatred in their tones. I can guarantee you I didn’t comment on his site.

I asked my readers not to go over there and stir the pot. If they did, that’s their problem, not mine. I’ll admit, I probably should have used better judgment and not linked to his site, knowing some people here would not behave, but I was being optimistic. Still, it’s my understanding that he linked back here and tried to sic his readers on me, too, so… I guess we’ll call it even this time.

Regardless, without actual examples of what was said, I can’t comment on any of this “hatred”, and I have to assume you are just over-reacting. It was my understanding that Daddy Blogger was flinging a fair number of insults and put-downs at childfree people, too (after all, this IS the guy who flew off the handle because we LINKED to him – and neither I nor the other blogger said anything nasty about him), so I’m shocked (not really) you are so blind you think this whole “flame war” (if it even is a flame war) is so completely one sided!

After scouring your website I can see the same undertones. Your slang, goals and rants are truly amazing to me.

Pete/Chris obviously didn’t read this site, especially since he’s outraged at my… goals? What in my list of goals was so horrible? Did I say kill all the children? Forced sterilizations? Making parents pay thousands in extra taxes every year to make up for their sin of reproducing? No. My goals are made up of: Reproductive Freedom, Workplace Equality, Discrimination Protection, Social Acceptance and Societal Obligations. HOW DARE I SUGGEST SUCH HORRIBLE THINGS!

And complaining about my rants? Let’s see, most recently I laughed that the Daddy Blogger’s list of “funny” things about having kid was actually kind of scary. OMG, CALL THE NATIONAL GUARD. THAT KIND OF HATRED IS UNACCEPTABLE! I mocked that mommies are buying “The Shandle” (something my friend Sarah dubbed the “Shit Handle” – good one Sarah!), and I laughed at a couple of insecure mommies who made fools of themselves online. Wow, awful stuff!! And don’t forget to check out this collection of “proof” of how I’m such a horrible child hater!

I cannot differentiate the difference between calling someone a breeder or a moo versus a racial or religious slur.

God, white breeders the absolute worst!! They honestly have NO idea what racism is about, and they diminish it every chance they get. Do they really see Michael Jackson on TV and think, “You know, skin color is a choice! All those black people who are still black? That’s just because they want to be!”

Here’s the difference:

** I can’t change my skin color – tanning aside (which is stupid) or millions of dollars, strange experimental treatments and severe psychosis like MJ had, I’m stuck with it. I didn’t get a choice in my skin color.

** I can choose if I want children or not. If I choose to have them, I really don’t have much right to complain about all the lack of sleep and sex that comes along with them. That’s a given that everyone knows about ahead of time! Meanwhile, I could always give the kids up if I didn’t like them anymore. Children are a choice unlike things like skin color and ethnicity.

** When people complain about “breeders” we’ve always made it clear we’re talking about their BEHAVIOR, not even the very fact that they have kids. You can CHOOSE your behavior and you can CHOOSE your actions. If you’re going to be a shitty parent, you better get used to people bitching about it because more and more people are getting sick of your lazy, crap-ass parenting.

** Someone refusing to hire someone because he’s black and keeping him from making a living, or savagely beating him up because he’s a different race is NOT the same thing as someone on the internet saying, “Damn, that women is a breeder! That poor kid, stuck with such a shitty parent!” Got it?

Now STFU about the whole “you childfree people are just like racists when you criticize my shitty parenting skills!” It just makes you all look like the fucking morons that you are. And proves you make shitty parents with such poor reasoning skills. If that’s the kind of things you teach your kids, you know they are going to grow up to be morons too!

I am in no way shape or form judging you but I am very curious as to where the passion for such a harmless topic is coming from. Up until 24 hours ago, I did not even know there was acutally people out there that cared to even think about this topic much less actively pour hate towards other people over it.

What passion? I said your friend the DaddyBlogger’s list was scary because it’s true. That was the end of it. You’re making a mountain out of a molehill, dude!

I was hoping you could help me understand the ideaology behind your beliefs on this.

Read my website. For real this time – don’t just pretend like you read it and make up what you THINK it says.

Personally, I have led a modestly privledged life and of EVERY single great thing that has ever happened to me in my entire life absolutely nothing has ever compared to the birth of my son who is now 15 months. Without question, it has been the best 24 months of my life (from pregnancy to present). Please let me know your thoughts. Again, I would never judge you or think ill of you as you clearly do towards others. Again, I hope all is well and look forward to hearing from you.

I LOVE how people with kids who can’t stand that we don’t have the same burden always have to throw in our faces, “Nothing in my life meant anything until I had a son!” (And it’s usually the son they are most proud of, as if girls are really only the runner-up-prize for folks like this.) What they are really saying is, “Nothing you’re doing with your life has any importance or purpose. Sure, you might think, right now, that whatever you’ve done was impressive and you’re proud of it, but I felt the exact same way until I had a child. And you’ll never realize how empty your lives are until you have a kid, and if you don’t, well, your life will always be empty and meaningless even if you don’t see it that way. Poor you.” Basically, they say that statement as a put down. And what did I say about put downs recently? They are so afraid that we think they are missing out they quickly have to insist they are NOT missing out and, in fact, WE are the ones missing out. Insecurity anyone?

So, Pete/Chris, thanks for playing, but try harder next time. Here’s some tips:

** Pick one name and stick with it. Looks less troll-y.

** If you are responding to a flame war, don’t pretend like it was totally one-sided. They never are.

** If you are responding to a flame war, respond to someone who was actually doing some flaming.

** If you are going to complain about the “undertones” of my site, please have actually read it first, and don’t complain about the benign stuff like the goals. Use specific examples, too. This way I don’t have to guess about the one line you took out of context to formulate your argument.

** Drop the racism argument. It makes you look stupid.

** Don’t whine about religion here because you’ll get no sympathy from me, since I believe religion = the biggest hate group there is. Religion is ALL about separating people, highlighting their differences and keeping them apart, not uniting them (Especially Christianity – how many freakin’ denominations does one religion need? The fuckers can’t even stand each other!!!).

Thank you, try again.